Alan Watts

Now, who hasn’t come across this figure if you’ve even touched the world of ‘spirituality’. YouTube algorithm especially loves the man.

Allow

What if you allowed yourself? What if you just did it The thing you shouldn’t do Instead of the internal battle

Be present and hold space for others

I’ve always found the opinions of strangers on the internet fascinating.

Breathing is in

What does it mean to be alive? Technically, it means having a metabolism, growing, evolving and respiring. I think the definition is worth reflecting upon because we take the experience for granted. Maybe that’s because we don’t actively control the process; the beating of our hearts and the digesting of our food happens in the background. And we only really pay attention to our breath if it becomes problematic, like if we have a cold or a condition like asthma. But don’t you think it’s strange that we don’t pay attention to these most fundamental aspects of being human?

Brene Brown

There’s one undisputed Queen of shame and vulnerability. Brene Brown. Her TED talks are great and so are her books. Her ideas genuinely changed the way I related to vulnerability.

Chronic procrastination almost derailed my life

In the early years of my education, I was a top-star student.

Coming out

i’m coming out… again you see, mum, dad, friends i’m not just a life coach i’m a spiritual life coach

Courage to be disliked

This book was another game-changer for me. I grew up as a people-pleaser as a survival tactic. It served me well, until I looked around at my life and realised I didn’t belong. I’d said yes to everything except myself. Learning that being disliked is actually a sign of a well-lived life was breathtaking. And it’s a space I continue to lean into at my edge.

Discipline is self-love

Discipline. It sounds like the opposite of fun, like routine and structure.

Do you love yourself?

If you don’t love yourself, how in the hell can you love somebody else? Wise words. Except, how many of us truly love ourselves? In a way that is forgiving, compassionate and gentle? We may have a fraught relationship with our minds, with our bodies, with the parts of us that cause us shame. It can feel like there’s an internal battle going on.

Feel the fear and do it anyway

A classic. My mum gave this to me when I was 20. I was struggling with depression and couldn’t see a way out.

Feeling

What feeling are you unwilling to feel right now?

Felt sense

No one ever talks about our sixth sense: interoceptive awareness. This is what lets us 'feel' what's happening inside us.

Focus on the effort, not the outcome

We are groomed to be results-driven. From an early age we are ushered through school, from one exam to the next.

Forgiveness

How did I get this so wrong?

Have the courage to be disliked

I grew up as a people-pleaser. From my naive perspective, being liked and receiving recognition meant that I was doing something right in…

Horizon

Yesterday came over me like a hot air balloon over the horizon New things felt possible, which really were old things revisited But inbetween a sleep, everything changed I woke up today in a new feeling, which really is an old feeling

How to do cannabis therapy

Psychedelics can do wonders for breaking old patterns of the mind.

How to run a brainstorm

Who doesn’t love a brainstorm? Put your hand down, Kenny. We all love brainstorms.

How to see the filters through which we see life

We all have filters through which we see the world. And it’s our life’s work to peel them away until we are left in direct contact with reality as it is. A filter is a belief that distorts how we receive information. For instance, we could believe that being angry is a sign of aggression. Therefore, when we see this emotion in someone, it might trigger us to be defensive or to question the other person’s intentions. Any sign of anger inside ourselves could be repressed or denied and we may avoid situations that evoke it.

How to spot a cult

I went to an interesting workshop by Anke Richter, a cult researcher, and thought I’d share some learnings.

How to stop caring what people think

I’ve been running a workshop as per the title. There’s a lot of content to share around it, but here are the key takeaways: 🧠 1.

How to understand addiction

Based on a Gestalt Therapy workshop I took part in this workshop to help me better understand the behaviours of smokers, to support the stop-smoking program I was building with Mindset Health. What I learnt is that addiction is everywhere. It’s any behaviour we repeat despite adverse consequences.

How to write narrative non-fiction

Narrative non-fiction (NNF) is what I do a lot of.

How to write stand-up comedy

In 2024 I decided I would try my hand at a comedy routine. No joke. Well, a few. Did they go down well?

Ideas

You will never come up with the right business idea In fact, your idea doesn’t matter. At all. I used to fantasise about becoming an entrepreneur. I told myself I would make the jump if I just had the right idea. The classic advice is to solve a problem that you’re having. But this led me down the path of starting an online shop for vegan protein bars because I found them hard to buy.

Ignite your passion

A free 90-minute workshop to reveal the blueprint for creating a life where you wake up feeling energised and full of purpose. Walk away with clarity on what life you want to build and practical steps to get started: - Create a crystal clear vision: follow a guided meditation and visualisation to unlock your deepest desires - Dare to dream big: rewire your mindset, overcome your fear of failure and smash through limiting beliefs about what’s possible for you - Supercharge your motivation: feel inspired and get the ball rolling with practical next steps

Ignite your passion - guide

Everyone deserves to wake up feeling energised, knowing that the day ahead is something to look forward to.

I’m a Barbie girl in a Barbie world

My life is grounded in nature, healing and spirituality. It’s not pink and materialistic. But I realised last week that I am Barbie. And that’s a problem.

Is the true test of love to let it go?

Inner work is important but the measure of progress is how we act with others. I’m learning this as I explore a romantic connection after years of turning inward. Inwards to outwards In the early stages of my journey, I cut out external influences so I could understand who I really was.

Joy

Do the things that bring you joy So simple Too simple I’ve spent much of my life in search of meaning Changing careers and countries And…

Let go and surrender

Making decisions can be hard – especially big, life-changing ones. It can seem like happiness depends on choosing correctly and that regret will knock on each door that we close behind us. There’s an underlying fear of failure, of having no one else to blame. On many occasions, I’ve tried to predict how events might unfold before making a decision. I’ve thought endlessly about how I could optimise a situation. But my psychic powers have always fallen short and I’ve been left in a circling state of analysis, feeling overwhelmed and incapable of making the right call.

London

A friend of mine went to London with his girlfriend.

Love doesn't happen to us. It's a choice to go deeper

Love. One word to describe a million things. I use it to describe my favourite way of making eggs. And my favourite person.

Love yourself

If you don’t love yourself, how in the hell can you love somebody else? Wise words.

Masculinity

Hey everyone!

Melbourne

This was a comprehensive guide I made for a cute boy in my life.

Nepal

You’ve landed! The beginning of an incredible journey. I really wish I had taken better notes of my travels in Nepal (hint hint).

New Earth

Now, I actually believe this book is better than the Power of Now.

new zealand

Right, so this is just a sweeping summary of the places I’ve been that I’d recommend. You’re going to have a great time. The thing to know is that the two islands are pretty different. The North Island is where most of the people are, more towns, and it gets way more tropical the further north you go, hotter, beautiful beaches. The South Island is the one for nature. Honestly, the North Island isn’t the best island in terms of nature. The most beautiful stuff is further down south. I’d weight your time accordingly.

Overthinker

i used to be a chronic overthinker spending hours comparing models if i bought a computer speaker i would plan out conversations and what…

Pathways to Presence

Go from fighting your mind to being ever more present with this 5-day meditation course blending science and spiritualit…

Patterns

Behavioral patterns are pathways of least resistance. We walk through an overgrown field by following the footpath. To break a pattern, you need to learn to handle discomfort. You need to leave the path behind and walk through wilderness with brambles at your legs.

Procrastinate

If you constantly procrastinate on the things that matter, read this.

School

School conditioned me To want to get it right But in life There is no right Only currents that blow me Across uncharted territory Expansive…

Self-reputation

Picture this… your friend keeps making plans with you. But then bails at the last moment. They always have the same tired excuses.

Shelter

Your desire to shelter them Is a desire to shelter yourself They don’t need your help They need your love

I was looking for fulfillment But really I was looking for aliveness It sent me searching Chasing, trying, failing Nothi…

Do you struggle to read poetry?

The antidote to stress isn't relaxation. It's play

“I’m not stressed!” I’d yell to my mum. Whenever I was revising for exams or in difficult moments in my life, I’d get eczema on my hands.

The journey to discover my blind spots

Are you aware of your blind spots?

The Untethered Soul

Oooo I love Michael Singer. This book gave me a new framework for how to live.

The War of Art

Ever wanted to start a creative project but felt blocked? Yeah, you me and 8 billion other people.

Tool 1: How to regulate yourself

Day 1: Nervous system regulation 📚 Reading Today we are going to learn how your thoughts are governed by your nervous s…

Tool 2: How to rewire your mind

Dopamine 📚 Reading Cravings are a normal part of being human.

Tool 3: Your secret sixth sense

We’ve learned that we have unconscious patterns of behaviour driven by dopamine. And that our nervous system dictates the thoughts we are having. Today we are going to explore our hidden ‘sixth sense’, interoceptive awareness. This is the key to building a strong relationship with our intuition and to start making decisions that are aligned with our truest self.

Tool 4: Break free from your fears

Over the last few days we’ve learnt how to relax our nervous system, rewire our dopamine cycle, and become more in tune with our feelings.

Tool 5: Silence the inner critic

We’ve spent the last few days exploring ourselves in a deeper way, from our nervous system to habits to beliefs.

Unbound space: navigating between life stages

How comfortable are you with the unknown? Y'know, that period of time between two stages of life. You've let go of an old shape. Perhaps an identity, a job, a relationship. But you've not yet discovered your new form. It sits beyond the horizon, bent through the haze of time. This experience is called the unbound space.

Universal Christ

This book blew my mind when I read it in 2020. I never considered myself a Christian. To be honest, I thought the ideas were archaic. This book presented a radical revision of Christianity, presenting Christ as a universal energy (’consciousness’) that aligns more with modern views on spirituality.

Velvet Rage

This book helped me to understand that my journey as a gay man was so similar to others.

Weather

Miserable weather isn’t it? That’s what I heard when I sat down in the cafe I laughed instinctively and agreed We do like to rag on the…

Wellington

Here’s a very brief guide I shared for a friend recently. One day I’ll update this with a proper walkthrough of everything this wonderful city has to offer. Walk down Cuba St (lots of cute little shops and quirky people 🤪) Coffee at Raglan Roast (Abel Smith St) - big open space with comfy chairs, my favourite cafe

What it truly means to follow your heart

Speak from your heart.

Where a leap of faith can take you...

9 months ago, I sent an email to my landlord serving 4 weeks’ notice on my apartment in Melbourne.

Why I went five days without food

I’ve never gone hungry for more than a few hours in my whole life. Last month, I fasted for five days. No calories. Just water. Here’s what happened…

Why shame thrives on secret-keeping

The journey to self-love is long and winding. And when you’re in a place of self-loathing it can look like an unreachable destination.

You are not your thoughts

There was a part of me that knew I was an overthinker. But another part of me couldn’t comprehend being any other way.

You won't find love in a person, you'll find it in a field

It took heartbreak for me to realise the trap I’d set for myself… Losing my lover meant losing love. He had become my only access to that state. My soul supply. My dealer. Somewhere along the way, I had become dependent on his affection.